Heart to Heart: The Joy of Human Connections

I was just thinking the other day how important human connections are to feeling loved, validated, alive, and complete. Whole-hearted human connections are so necessary and essential for our well being. By learning to make a deliberate choice to connect with the right people; our own authentic selves; and the universal energies that surround us, our lives can be truly transformed and uplifted.

If this is the case then why do we not reach out and connect more? You see friends, each time we open ourselves to others we become vulnerable and risk being judged and hurt. As a natural instinct to avoid this anticipated hurt and pain we shut ourselves off from each other choosing to deny a life full of love, connectivity, closeness, intimacy and joy. We let our fear of pain and judgement hold us back from making authentic connections. The very thing that makes life worth living.

The key then is to learn to accept and work through what may come our way including fear, judgment and pain in order to reap the rewards of true connections.

But what is even more important is to remember to be the kind of human we seek in others. When others open their hearts and reach out, we have to ensure we connect whole heartedly with compassion and without judgment. We have to value the faith others place in us by sharing their genuine feelings and emotions. By validating their feelings and being their support we become the positive force they seek in their life.

This coming together of the willingness to accept pain and judgement ourselves and a commitment to not judging others can uplift us all to a whole new level of living.

On a deeper level as we begin to connect with our own authentic selves and the universal energies around us we begin to overcome the need to be validated, understood and accepted by others. Our power begins to emerge from within us. This power brings confidence, joy and happiness.

But friends we are hard-wired humans deeply effected by our cultural beliefs to the very core. It takes continues effort in every single moment to make these changes. The good news is once we become consciously aware of where we need to be, change begins to happen. We try, we fail, we rise, we fall and we rise again!! That’s the way of human evolution. What matters is that we keep going.

When I set up this magical space I was also opening myself to vulnerability in a big way. It was a little scary but I am glad I did anyways. I am sure I have mentioned this many times before but I can not refrain myself from saying it again. Through this vulnerability has come my biggest reward. The reward of being able to connect, at a whole new level, with you all.

I am grateful to each and everyone of you who take the time to give your feed back, send comments and be heard. And to all those friends who are not so comfortable putting themselves out on social media but have such heartfelt conversations with me in person or private messages, I thank you. You making the time to visit, read, and share your thoughts on and about this platform has given birth to wonderful connections.

I have been asked many times how I come up with things to write about. The truth is when we feel life from the heart things simply pure out. Living life from the inside, one realizes there is nothing but love. Our sole purpose in life is to experience and spread love. Imagine a world without fear, judgement, competition, jealousy, and unworthiness. A world where we can feel safe to be seen and heard for who we truly are. A world where there is nothing but authentic connections and love. It would be magical and we my friends are creating that magic every time we form that heart to heart connection absent of judgment!!

On that note, not too long ago I did a post called Taking Your Power Back With Animal Print. I received a wonderful message from Sweety, a great friend and a dedicated tribe member, that actually lead to a very heart-warming story of human connectivity. I share with you her comment, photo and follow up story that she sent.

Sweety: “How wearing animal print led to real power of connection:

Firstly, I would like to commend you, on your continuous dedicated effort and regimental blogging every week. I read your blogs and often think of writing a comment, in the mist of time, you have already posted the next blog, excuse me for being behind….Growing up I was surrounded by taxidermies of lions, tigers and cheetahs in the house from my grandfathers hunting trips (these days it would be considered animal cruelty).Being born a ‘Shergill’ it naturally came to me wearing animal prints in my early age, it kind of gave me a feeling of being a tigress. Whenever, I am decluttering my clothes, my leopard print trousers from my twenties usually gets classified as classic and I very proudly wear these even now (thank goodness for the invention of spandex). When people see me wearing them the first reaction usually is WOW, you wear leopard prints? Of course they are classic and sexy. “

When Sweet wrote this I was so excited to see her animal print trousers and asked her to send a phots. She sent the lovely photo along with a heart warming story that I had to share (with her permission).

“Today, I was feeling tigress, wore my leopard trousers and went to the library to research something. On my way out, I saw a very nice quilted art piece, I was admiring it and I heard someone in distance saying ‘I love your trousers’. I said ‘thank you’ but she wanted to know were I got them from. I told her, they are really very old and are from abroad, you won’t be able to buy them here. She felt very disappointed, I said ‘sorry, I would give them to you but they are my favourite’. I introduced myself to her and she said her name is Kofi, she is from Ghana. I asked her if she could do me a favour by taking a picture of them, for me to send it to a friend, for posting on her blog about animal prints, as she wanted to see me wearing them. So, we went outside the library and took some pictures. While, she was taking pictures, I felt there was something special happening in that moment and the place where we were, interestingly one of the pictures has a rainbow in it. I walked with her to help her find a place that took passport photos, which she needed to get done. We exchanged phone numbers to keep in touch in the future, gave her a hug and she said ‘I hope your friend likes the pictures’, then we parted.”

Thank you so much Sweety for sharing such a beautiful story of human connection. We hope you two will reconnect and may you always cherish this beautiful interaction and connection.

While on this topic we can not over look the importance of the connection we form with our authentic selves and with the universe in which we exist. Recently, I did a whole series on “Let’s Talk Self-Care: Body, Mind and Soul. (If you haven’t read it yet I urge you to read all three parts.)

After reading the part 3, Taking Care of Our Soul one of the most dedicated and uplifting tribe member, Michelle who writes her own beautiful blog, sent this wonderful story that I have to share.

I love these tips on how to take care of our souls. Taking care of my soul is not one of the things I think about when taking care of myself, but it’s just as equally important. I love #5 – embracing child like wonder. Sometimes it feels so good to let go of being an adult, even if it’s just for a few minutes. Recently my daughter and I went to the pumpkin patch and she kept begging me to swing with her. I kept wondering what all those parents would think of an old lady on the swing, but I finally gave in and just didn’t care what they thought. That was the best time I’ve had in a while! Just letting go and having fun as a child would.

I cannot express how good this story made me feel. I love how Michelle acknowledges, “Sometimes it feels so good to let go of being an adult, even if it’s just for a few minutes.” These moments for us normal humans are certainly brief. (Its a different story for those on a higher spiritual journey). But can you imagine if we were able to create and collect a series of these brief moments every single day for the rest of our lives. That my friends would be a life fully lived!!

Thank you so much Michelle for sharing your beautiful moment with us.

Human connections whether they are with each other, our own selves or with this amazing universe that we get to call home are at the base of our happiness. May we all find the courage and strength to face pain, hurts and disappointment in our quest to find these meaningful connections. May we all see each other with love, compassion, and understanding so there is no pain or judgement in the connections!! As we seek love let us learn to give love!!

Forever grateful for the amazing connections,

Devinder 💖

Photo Credit: Pixabay: Kofi; Ravi Maan