5 Simple steps to take charge of your mind and live blissfully!

Fear, anger, misery, frustration, depression, and despair are all products of a mind that you have not taken charge of” – Sadhguru

As humans, we are so blessed to have bright, intelligent, creative and imaginative minds.  It is this mind that gives us protection, survival, imagination, vision, creativity, and clarity.   We as a human race have come a long way thanks to our combined brain power.

Today majority of the people have their basic needs met on a daily basis. We have all the comforts, conveniences and luxuries that our ancestors could only dream of. So does this mean we are the happiest, most peaceful and joyful of all the generations? Absolutely not!   In fact, many of us are miserable, frustrated, angry, worried, even depressed to some extent.

So why is this you ask? Well, the mind is a part of our body just like all the other parts.  It has a function and that is to protect us, create our identity and help us grow and expand.   However, instead of controlling the mind, we have let it control us.  That which is meant to be a part of our being has become our being. In other words, we have let the mind rule our lives. We identify with it so much that we think it is who we are.

Eckhart Tolle, in “Practicing the Power of Now,” states “To put it accurately, it is not so much that you use your mind wrongly – you usually don’t use it at all.  It uses you”.  What a brilliant observation!  We think we are our mind and we listen to it 24/7,  constantly and continuously.  It keeps on dictating and we keep on following.

It was while reading Wayne Dyer’s book “Wishes Fulfilled” that I first became aware of the fact that human mind on average has 60,000 thoughts per day. Not only that but these 60,000 thoughts are the same thoughts each and every day repeated over and over.   No wonder it is called the monkey mind. Just like a monkey jumping from branch to branch, our mind is constantly jumping from one thought to another. Unfortunately, not only are these thoughts repetitive but they are also very limiting and depleting.

This mind of ours loves to live in the past. It tends to play the same memory reel over and over again.  Always remembering the negative and bad experiences.  How many times have you thought of that kid in grade 6 who made you feel so small, that friend who was so unfair, that wrong decision you made, or that relative you could never forgive?  This is what fills our lives with pain, guilt, anger, and self-pity.

If we look back we must do so fondly remembering the happy and joyful!

It doesn’t stop there.   When the mind is done with the past it engages in the future.  We think of all the scenarios that could possibly go wrong.  We worry about our children, our health, that of our partner, the lack of money, the 15 pounds we will never lose, etc. Of course, all this brings us into a state of fear, anxiety, and uncertainty.

So my friends, between regretting the past and worrying about the future where does the present fit in? This very moment where real life is unfolding so beautifully.  Where we have the ability to create a life of our dreams. What about this moment?  Unfortunately, our cluttered mind often lets it slip by.  It’s only when this moment becomes the past that we visit it and of course with regret.  We blame something or someone because things didn’t happen the way we wanted them to.

Let us move forward with clarity, hope and enthusiasm!

A small experience once really drove this point home for me.  I was standing in a line up at a store.  Standing before me was a young grandmother with a cute little girl sitting in her buggy.  The girl was so happy and interactive.  She was giggling, touching her grandma’s cheek trying to get her attention.  The grandma lost in her own thoughts would just push away the girl’s hand. There was a joyful, magical present lost to the monkey mind.

Each day all of us let so many beautiful moments just slip by simply because our mind is preoccupied with the past or the future.   Over time it becomes littered with anger, guilt, regret, worry, and anxiety.  Instead of taking charge of our lives, we simply live by reacting to what is happening.  That mind which is designed for creativity, love, joy, and expansion gets tangled in its own vicious cycle.  We start to not only live but also accept very limiting, ordinary existences. It all seems very normal because the majority of us live this way.    We all think this is how life is, unfair, difficult, and complicated.  Well, it doesn’t have to be.

It is only when we learn to control and quiet our mind and live consciously that we can experience the real magic of life.   By indulging, enjoying and fully participating in the present moment we can create and enjoy the life we dream of.    With a focus on the now we learn to appreciate the true beauty, bliss, and joy this journey has to offer. This is what makes the ordinary, extraordinary.

I know exactly what you are thinking.  Easier said than done, right?  How do we change the patterns and habits we have lived with for so long?    I understand, and I am with you.  It is a process that takes commitment, awareness, and patience with yourself.  It is not only doable but life-changing.

Let’s do this together:

1.First and foremost is your commitment and desire to make the change

Once you understand the problem you have to make a conscious effort to change the habit.  Our problem is unnecessary mind chatter and it’s control over our lives. Our mission is to learn to quiet the mind and take charge of it.   Reading something once is not enough. You have to make notes and follow through.  (A journal works great where you can record your thoughts, challenges, and victories every day).

2. Learn to observe your mind

Observe and pay attention to what your mind is thinking at a given moment throughout the day.  Please do not judge the thoughts.  Just learn to observe and get to know your thought pattern. You are not alone. We all have these thoughts.  Just accept them.

3. Next, we observe the feeling related to the thought

Once you become aware of your thoughts, observe how they make you feel. If a thought gives you a negative feeling (that of regret, anger, anxiety, guilt, fear or worry) drop it like a hot potato.  Replace it with a positive thought (one that makes you smile, joyful and grateful). You have 60,000 thoughts to choose from so choose a good one.  On this journey of life, let’s learn to travel light and with only the best possible memories and outlook.

4.  “Replace expectation with gratitude”

I love this one-liner by Tony Robins.  We often go through our day having very high expectations from others and from life in general. By doing this we set ourselves up for disappointment.   Change your perception and start living with gratitude instead.  The practice of gratitude as a way of life can totally alter your life.  Read more on gratitude https://fabulousfiftyfive.com/unfolding-the-path-of-joy-through-gratitude/When we live with gratitude we realize how perfect and abundant life already is.

5. Be in the moment

Once you start observing the mind, ensure it is engaged in the moment – this moment. Something that helps me to be present is to start noticing the smells, the textures, and sounds around me.  Find something you love in this moment and every moment.   Remember it is this very instance where everything happens.  This is the moment we can create consciously and bring joy, happiness, and laughter along with making beautiful memories.

This life of ours is too short and precious.  It is meant to be lived with love, compassion, and joy.  It is an experience that must be felt by the soul.  Don’t let the mind rule it.  Learn to rule the mind!

With Love, 

Devinder ❤️

Published in the Canadian Immigrant August 29, 2018

https://canadianimmigrant.ca/living/wellness/take-charge-of-your-mind-to-live-happily


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7 responses to “5 Simple steps to take charge of your mind and live blissfully!”

  1. Pushpinder Grewal Avatar
    Pushpinder Grewal

    Once again very well written Devinder! Your articles are becoming my bible and wait for them eagerly. Most of time we tend to live either in the past or future but forget that the present is the only thing that we actually have. I think Meditation is very important and should be done on daily basis. One cannot live a positive life with a negative mind. By replacing the negative thoughts with the positive ones, one can start experiencing peace!

    1. DM Avatar

      Thank you so much Pushpinder. I am so grateful for your love and support. You are absolutely right meditation is a great tool and must be incorporated into daily life. We are blessed to experience this miraculous journey and it’s our responsibility to make it a great one living consciously.

  2. Saji Avatar
    Saji

    Lovely! Always looking forward to your next post Devinder!

    1. DM Avatar

      Thank you so much Saji! It means a lot!

  3. Nena Avatar

    Its a mind opener itself. I often thought I have full of great ideas and just needed some more time. I guess I am too much worrying I cannot do all things tomorrow and I have to start everything today. I’m hit by a big block. Big ouch! Thanks Devinder!

    1. Devinder Maan Avatar

      Thanks Nena. I know things can get very overwhelming at times. Bringing ourselves back into this moment always helps to stay focused and creative. Being grateful for how far we have come also always calms the mind. Thank you for your feed back and good luck. Love, Devinder.

  4. Sarah Garden Avatar

    Being present in the moment is a good way to break the cycle of worrying.

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